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Want to know how to deal with an enemy or toxic person so they don’t get to you? This is one of the best tools.  Read on…

Do you have someone who is permanently in your life for good – who is behaving badly?

This person might be a..

  • friend
  • ex who remains the mother or father of your kids
  • family member
  • co-worker
  • boss
  • neighbor
  • etc…

Maybe they’re missing the “kindness gene” and just being a total jerk.

Well, if so – no worries! I have one of the best tools to help you to deal with their cruel behavior.

In my video course Manage And Avoid Drama Llamas I share the full range of techniques I use to disarm challenging people – and put up stronger boundaries. Learn more here.

How to deal with an enemy or toxic person

I want you to start to think of this person as a “Metaphorical Tennis Player.”

View your enemy as someone who is helping you to improve at the game of life.

As you might already know, one of the best ways to get better at tennis is to play with a worthy opponent.

When you play with someone who challenges you, they force you to step up your tennis game.

In fact, if you want to become a better tennis player, it actually helps a lot to have a tough opponent.

The more the other person hits that ball all over the court, the more they will help you improve how you play.

With the help of a tough opponent, you’re forced to bring in your A-game.

Well, the same thing applies to becoming better at the game of life.

Often we don’t want to put in the effort to work on important life skills.

But we will work on these life skills – if we’re forced to! 

And we’re finally forced to work on our “A Game”when we’re face-to-face with a “tough opponent” like an enemy.

The best way to deal with an enemy…

Start thinking about your enemy with the euphemistic name of “Metaphorical Tennis Player.

Think about it…

When you’re face-to-face with a “tough opponent” – a “Metaphorical Tennis Player” – you’re forced toreach deep inside yourself.

You then tap into places of strength, insight, wisdom and growth which were simply laying there dormant.

In fact, these parts of you might have continued to lay there dormant – had it not been for your “tough opponent” – your “Metaphorical Tennis Player”

Thanks to your “tough opponent” – your “Metaphorical Tennis Player” – you can work on life skills like…

developing your mental focus

getting better at setting boundaries

4 Step Recap of How To Deal With An Enemy

  1. Re-name this enemy or toxic person as your “Metaphorical Tennis Player.”
  2. Start to think of them as someone who is here to actually HELP you to become stronger, better, wiser.
  3. Ask yourself what positive qualities your “Metaphorical Tennis Player” is here to help you to develop – thanks to their chaos and resistance.
  4. Try to be as thankful as possible that they are helping you to become a better player at the game of life.

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10 Good Optimism Quotes to Stay Positive in Tough Times

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Here are 10 good optimism quotes to stay positive in tough times.
Each saying will remind you to try to look for the good in the bad – and you will surely find it.

I personally created these optimism quotes.

I’m both a bestselling author and award winning designer. I love to create inspiring optimism quote images. Plus I love to write and produce books and video courses to help people to live a life they love!

I’ve lived a challenging life. And I personally know how tough it can be to find the good in the midst of a crappy situation. But I also know there are benefits to staying optimistic. And I’m committed to always doing my best to find some good – no matter what happens.

You can read my story here.

Karen Salmansohn & NotSalmon’s Story

I’d love to encourage you to train your mind to look for something positive in all your challenges.

How? Well, you can start by reading this collection of optimistic quotes below.

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A good tool to inspire optimism – beyond these quotes

I recommend you regularly journal!

If you feel you don’t have time, then you will love my line-a-day journal, Listen To Your Heart! It shares simple and thought provoking writing prompts.

You’ll mindfully notice all the good things in your day – and life.

My journal will help you to make it a practice to be grateful daily and listen to your heart.

Please also be patient about progress.

Eventually you’ll see the beauty in your chaos and the purpose in your pain.

10 Good Optimism Quotes to Stay Positive in Tough Times


Look For The Good Quotes to Inspire Optimism
You gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in your sad. The gain in your pain. And what makes you grateful not hateful. – Karen Salmansohn

You gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in your sad. The gain in your pain. And what makes you grateful not hateful. – Karen Salmansohn #notsalmon #optimism #quotes CLICK TO TWEET

Good Quotes to Inspire Optimism


Look For The Good and You Will Find It: 10 Quotes to Inspire Optimism

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Print out these good optimism sayings. Put these optimistic images on your mirror. Read them each day to get your mind marinated in optimism and positive thinking.


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We all need a little humor now and then….

The Presbyterian church called a meeting to decide what to do about their squirrel infestation. After much prayer and consideration, they concluded that the squirrels were predestined to be there, and they shouldn’t interfere with God’s divine will.

At the Baptist church the squirrels had taken an interest in the baptistery. The deacons met and decided to put a water-slide on the baptistery and let the squirrels drown themselves. The squirrels liked the slide and unfortunately, knew instinctively how to swim, so twice as many squirrels showed up the following week.

The Lutheran church decided that they were not in a position to harm any of God’s creatures. So, they humanely trapped their squirrels and set them free near the Baptist church. Two weeks later the squirrels were back when the Baptists took down the water-slide.

The Episcopalians tried a much more unique path by setting out pans of whiskey around their church in an effort to kill the squirrels with alcohol poisoning. They sadly learned how much damage a band of drunk squirrels can do.

But the Catholic church came up with a very creative strategy! They baptized all the squirrels and made them members of the church. Now they only see them at Christmas and Easter.

And not much was heard from the Jewish synagogue. They took the first squirrel and circumcised him. They haven’t seen a squirrel since.

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One Word Photo Essays

[COURTESY: LtCol Bob Dalton, USMC (Ret)]

Some good advice for these trying times!!


























May your troubles be less…

May your blessings be more…

May nothing but happiness come through your door

And if it does, make sure it’s wearing a mask!


My wife and I were watching Who Wants To Be A Millionaire while we were in bed.
I turned to her and said, ‘Do you want to have Sex?’
‘No,’ she answered.
I then said, ‘Is that your final answer?’

She didn’t even look at me this time, simply saying, ‘Yes..’
So I said, “Then I’d like to phone a friend.”

And that’s when the fight started…

I took my wife to a restaurant.

The waiter, for some reason, took my order first.

“I’ll have the rump steak, rare, please.”
He said, “Aren’t you worried about the mad cow?”
“Nah, she can order for herself.”

And that’s when the fight started…..

My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school reunion, and she kept staring at a drunken man swigging his hdrink as he sat alone at a nearby table.

I asked her, “Do you know him?”
“Yes”, she sighed,
“He’s my old boyfriend. I understand he took to drinking right after we split up those many years ago, and I hear he hasn’t been sober since.”

“My God!” I said, “Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?”

And then the fight started…

When our lawn mower broke and wouldn’t run, my wife kept hinting to me that I should get it fixed.
But, somehow I always had something else to take care of first, the shed, the boat,
making beer.. Always something more important to me.

Finally she thought of a clever way to make her point.
When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall grass, busily snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing scissors. I watched silently for a short time and then went into the house. I was gone only a minute, and when I came out again
I handed her a toothbrush.

I said, “When you finish cutting the
grass, you might as well sweep the driveway.”

The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.

My wife sat down next to me as I was flipping channels.
She asked, “What’s on TV?”
I said, “Dust.”

And then the fight started…

Saturday morning I got up early, quietly dressed, made my lunch, and slipped quietly into the garage. I hooked up the boat up to the van and proceeded to back out into a torrential downpour. The wind was blowing 50 mph, so I pulled back into the garage, turned on the radio, and discovered that the weather would be bad all day.

I went back into the house, quietly undressed, and slipped back into bed. I cuddled up to my wife’s back; now with a different anticipation,
and whispered, “The weather out there is terrible.”

My loving wife of 5 years replied, “And, can you believe my stupid husband is out fishing in that?”

And that’s how the fight started…

My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary.
She said, “I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in about 3 seconds.”

I bought her a bathroom scale.

And then the fight started……

After retiring, I went to the Social Security office to apply for Social Security. The woman behind the counter asked me for my driver’s License to verify my age. I looked in my pockets and realized I had left my wallet at home. I told the woman that I was very sorry, but I would have to go home and come back later.

The woman said, ‘Unbutton your shirt’.
So I opened my shirt revealing my curly silver hair.

She said, ‘That silver hair on your chest is proof enough for me’ and she processed my Social Security application.

When I got home, I excitedly told my wife about my experience at the Social Security office.

She said, ‘You should have dropped
your pants. You might have gotten disability too.’

And then the fight started…

My wife was standing nude, looking in the bedroom mirror.

She was not happy with what she saw and said to me, “I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you to pay me a compliment.’

I replied, “Your eyesight’s damn near perfect.”

And then the fight started……..

I rear-ended a car this morning…the start of a REALLY bad day!

The driver got out of the other car, and he was a DWARF!!
He looked up at me and said ‘I am NOT Happy!’
So I said, ‘Well, which one ARE you then?’

That’s how the fight started.

One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift…

The next year, I didn’t buy her a gift.
When she asked me why, I replied,
“Well, you still haven’t used the gift I bought you last year!”

And that’s how the fight started.


They say having a ‘sense of humor’, as we age, is the best thing to cultivate! Enjoy

Couple in their nineties are both having problems remembering things. During a check-up, the doctor tells them that they’re physically okay, but they might want to start writing things down to help them remember..

Later that night, while watching TV, the old man gets up from his chair ‘Want anything while I’m in the kitchen?’ he asks.

‘Will you get me a bowl of ice cream?’


‘Don’t you think you should write it down so you can remember it?’ she asks.

‘No, I can remember it.’

‘Well, I’d like some strawberries on top, too. Maybe you should write it down, so as not to forget it?’

He says, ‘I can remember that. You want a bowl of ice cream with strawberries.’

‘I’d also like whipped cream. I’m certain you’ll forget that, write it down?’ she asks.

Irritated, he says, ‘I don’t need to write it down, I can remember it! Ice cream with strawberries and whipped cream – I got it, for goodness sake!’

Then he toddles into the kitchen. After about 20 minutes, the old man returns from the kitchen and hands his wife a plate of bacon and eggs. She stares at the plate for a moment.

‘Where’s my toast?’

An elderly couple had dinner at another couple’s house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen.
The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, ‘Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great I would recommend it very highly.’
The other man said, ‘What is the name of the restaurant?’
The first man thought and thought and finally said, ‘What’s the name of that flower you give to someone you love? You know, the one that’s red and has thorns.’
‘Do you mean a rose?’
‘Yes, that’s the one,’ replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, ‘Rose, what’s the name of that restaurant we went to last night?’

Hospital regulations require a wheel chair for patients being discharged. However, while working as a student nurse, I found one elderly gentleman already dressed and sitting on the bed with a suitcase at his feet, who insisted he didn’t need my help to leave the hospital.
After a chat about rules being rules, he reluctantly let me wheel him to the elevator.
On the way down I asked him if his wife was meeting him.
‘I don’t know,’ he said. ‘She’s still upstairs in the bathroom changing out of her hospital gown.’

A senior citizen said to his eighty-year old buddy:
‘So I hear you’re getting married?’
‘Do I know her?’
‘This woman, is she good looking?’
‘Not really.’
‘Is she a good cook?’
‘Nah, she can’t cook too well.’
‘Does she have lots of money?’
‘Nope! Poor as a church mouse.’
‘Well, then, is she good in bed?’
‘I don’t know.’

‘Why in the world do you want to marry her then?’

‘Because she can still drive!’

A man was telling his neighbor, ‘I just bought a new hearing aid. It cost me four thousand dollars, but it’s state of the art. It’s perfect.’
‘Really,’ answered the neighbor. ‘What kind is it?’ ‘Twelve thirty.’

Morris, an 82 year-old man, went to the doctor to get a physical.
A few days later, the doctor saw Morris walking down the street with a gorgeous young woman on his arm.
A couple of days later, the doctor spoke to Morris and said, ‘You’re really doing great, aren’t you?’
Morris replied, ‘Just doing what you said, Doc: ‘Get a hot mamma and be cheerful.”
The doctor said, ‘I didn’t say that.. I said, ‘You’ve got a heart murmur; be careful.’

One more……..

A little old man shuffled slowly into an ice cream parlor and pulled himself slowly, painfully, up onto a stool… After catching his breath, he ordered a banana split.
The waitress asked kindly, ‘Crushed nuts?’
‘No,’ he replied, ‘Arthritis.’

Now, before you ‘forget’, send them on to someone you know who could use a good laugh!

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